Ending A Romantic Relationship With Sensitivity And Class

Two people who’ve loved each other can hardly part ways in a relationship without a fuss. It’s never easy to tell your partner that you no longer love them. But you can limit the damage by carefully choosing your words and gestures.

Our guide will help you get through a breakup……

Explain the breakup and why you’re unhappy

You don’t need to list all the reasons you’re breaking up unless your partner asks. It’s best to avoid the typical cliché phrases you’ve heard a zillion times: ‘It’s not you, it’s me.’ or ‘I have feelings, but it’s not love.’  It’s best to say things as honestly as possible. It’s worth explaining the reasons if they need to understand; however, it’s essential that you do so with respect, kindness, and avoid blaming the other person. The breakup will be less painful.

In an article by By Ashley Mateo, she cites several experts who give their thought about ending a relationship.  And one of them is Dea Dean, a marriage and family therapist and professional counselor in Ridgeland. “No one can argue with you about your own preferences or feelings; they can argue with you if you are vague or make statements/assumptions about their feelings,” says, MS. To do that, use “I”­ statements to explain what you think or feel isn’t working.” 

Give a few reasons for your decision

You should know why you want to break up. This is where you can talk about your feelings and hopes for the future. Ending a relationship is hard on everyone, so it’s best to accept that you’ll hurt another person. They’ll probably feel like they’re no better than a bottom-feeder for a while, but they’ll get over it.

It’s easy to follow the steps above and still not be totally transparent. I want you to explain why you think your duo isn’t working, and I want you to be transparent with yourself. What does that mean? If you have one foot in and one foot out of the relationship. Don’t make a decision!!!!!!!!!!!!  

Breakups are hard enough on your ego, and your soon-to-be-ex is likely to make things worse by putting down their attributes. Although you don’t want to hold anything back; be mindful of trying to make yourself feel better by telling them everything will be alright when you know it won’t.

Don’t say you’ll still be friends, or you can get back together someday if you know that is not want you want. Just be honest and tell them that you guys won’t be friends anymore. Your clarity will allow the other person to move on and rebuild that much faster.

Mateo quotes  Brittany Bouffard, a clinical social worker and psychotherapist in Denver, CO as saying,  “Ask yourself why you want to end it: Is there a lack of romantic feelings, do you have limited common ground, are you just not feeling it?” She further advises, “Talk these out with trusted friends, journal out both your reasons and the feelings that come up, and consider talking with a therapist if you’re unsure.”

Choose the right time

I bet your soon-to-be-ex will probably want to cry hysterically once you tell them about your breakup. So, choose a time when you are both calm.

Also, be careful of the environment. It’s not good manners to break up with someone over dinner at a restaurant an hour away from their home or where other people are. Your soon-to-be-ex doesn’t want to look like a loser, so they’ll try to save face and not cry in public.   

Leave your ex alone after the breakup

It was a tough decision, but you had to do what you had to do. You probably supported the other person in difficult times, but now that you’re separated, you can’t assume that role anymore. You can’t comfort someone and break their heart simultaneously.

Thought-provoking

 I hope these few tips will help you approach this ordeal with serenity and give your ex the breakup they deserve.