Toxicity Is the Best Defense for Staying Healthy and Strong

The health and fitness enterprise has made millions of dollars selling detox drinks, consumables, and fake programs to entice us that external goods are the best route to rid ourselves of issues.  The million-dollar industry hoodwinks us into believing quick fixes.  But I have a solution, and that is: for the industry to sell us something of value–like a potent juice or super cool cream to cleanse ourselves of destructive negative thoughts.

No matter how much we try, some toxicity is by human nature.  But I know for a fact, we can curtail some of our habitual negative ways.

  Ways We Can Become Toxic

Usually, when people think of toxic behaviors or traits, particular images come to mind. In fact, the film industry is notorious. 

For example, in the blockbuster movie Mean Girls, Regina George, played by actress Rachel McAdams, oozes with toxicity from the opening credits to its ending.

In the film, Cady Heron, played by actress Lindsay Lohan, was one of the lucky few students who could join the most popular girls’ group in high school called the “Plastics.” Before Cady accepts the “Plastics'” invitation, she befriends two girls who try to educate her about the group’s toxic energy, specifically the ring-leader Regina. Regina was heartless, to say the least. 

Nevertheless, soon after Cady becomes the “Plastics” friend, she learns that the group is up to no good. Cady learns about a scrapbook called “Burn Book” put together by the “Plastics”.” In this notebook are horrible rumors, secrets, and insults about other girls at school and some teachers. 

After twists and turns, Cady discovers that in the “Burn Book” there are less than flattering rumors about her. While I am oversimplifying using this movie as an example, Mean Girls is the perfect metaphor for toxicity.

What are ways toxicity creeps up?

Being Manipulative

This is a clear sign of toxic behavior. Manipulation is about power and control.   Most of us have been around people who drain us with their arrogance, quarrelsome, boorish, rude behaviors.

Gas-lighting

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When a person tries to convince you things are not what they seem, although it’s contrary to what you know, this might be a sign of gas-lighting–in other words, forcing you to question your sanities.

“Most of us have been gas-lighted at some point in our lives, making it important to learn how to spot the technique, shut it down, and minimize the psychological impact on our daily lives,” writes Robin Stern, an acclaimed psychoanalyst, in her article

Toxic Positivity?

This might surprise you, but when we are happy, regardless of whether the situation is negative, it can lead to denial, minimization, and invalidation of our emotional experiences. 

Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, a clinical psychologist said, “Toxic positivity is the assumption, either by one’s self or others, that despite a person’s emotional pain or difficult situation, they should only have a positive mindset or — my pet peeve term — ‘positive vibes.”

Not apologizing/Owning up to Mistakes

Few of us need explaining about this one.  But regardless, it’s very humiliating and challenging to be around someone who refuses to accept wrongdoing.

“Knowing how to apologize—and when—can repair damage in a relationship, but if you don’t know how to apologize sincerely, you can actually make things worse.” said writer Elizabeth Scott, a wellness coach, author, health educator, in her article How to Apologize More Sincerely

So, Check this out….

Being a good person is complex and striving for perfection, forget about it.  But when we make a conscious effort to understand how looking at our negative behavior is, this will go a long way trust me.

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Ayo Nowe Ogbor
Nowe Martha Ayo - Ogbor currently lives in Negara. She is in medical school and she is a strong advocate if individuals addressing their overall wellness by getting enough rest and she believes that being proactive and compassion in vital in life.

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