How can you identify if a person has mental health difficulties?

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iven that mental illness is often tossed around like a slapstick (we have all heard someone say, “she’s crazy,” or this dude has bipolar), viewpoints such as this make it challenging to discern what mental illness is.  In sum, a mental illness 99.9 percent of the time impacts a person’s thinking, emotions, and behaviors.  And given there are over 200 types of mental illness, this means someone you will encounter will suffer from some form of the disorder. 

Mental Health America says the following are typical signs of behaviors that are progressing into mental health issues that are already full-blown. “Mental health problems may be related to excessive stress due to a particular situation or series of events. As with cancer, diabetes, and heart disease, mental illnesses are often physical as well as emotional and psychological,” writes staffers at Mental Health America. 

They add, “Mental illnesses may be caused by a reaction to environmental stresses, genetic factors, biochemical imbalances, or a combination of these. With proper care and treatment, many individuals learn to cope or recover from a mental illness or emotional disorder. 

The most common type of mental health disorders is:

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Depression, bipolar disorder, dementia, schizophrenia, drug use, and anxiety disorders which all impacts change in a person’s mood, personality, or personal habits.  It’s estimated that 44 million Americans have mental health disorders.

Being in love is one of the most wonderful feelings. But it’s unpleasant to stay with someone with a mental illness. Sometimes you notice something is off with them, or they’re behaving differently, but don’t know what’s happening with them. We say look for the signs of mental illness if you suspect your partner is different from usual. But how do you identify these signs?

We have mentioned below a few warning signs that may tell if your partner might have a mental illness.

They tend to get mad easily

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Mood swings are normal and have nothing to do with mental illness. However, when these mood swings become frequent, and your partner seems agitated by little things, it’s a sign that they may suffer from any mental issue. These sudden anger bursts can be a sign of depression and anxiety.

They seem continuously tired

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Sometimes long workdays squeeze all the energy, and one seems lethargic. However, if you notice your significant other or partner is going to bed early than usual, it’s time to talk to them about it. At the onset of a few mental illnesses, some people want to snuggle in their bed and make no contact with anyone.

Sometimes they can’t seem to sleep at all. This lack of sleep can tire their bodies, and they can’t concentrate. Either way, their disturbed sleep cycle can be a sign of mental illness.

They avoid contact with everyone

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Giving each other some space is a sign of a healthy relationship. But when your partner seems distracted and not connecting with you, it could be their unaddressed turmoil that makes them do it. They even want to spend their days at home or work and avoid going out with people. In short, they limit their contact with people, and the alarming thing is that they would want to space themselves from you.

They seem forgetful

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Forgetting small things is human nature, but the sudden onset of frequent forgetfulness is a warning sign that your partner’s mental health is declining. You may also notice that they have become unorganized and miss their deadlines.

They would require too much or too little physical intimacy

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Being physical is human desire; however, anything more or less than usual is alarming.

Sometimes depression and anxiety would steal their physical energy, and they would not want to engage in sex. Other times, they may want to take their mind away from their suffering and just want to satisfy their urge without any romantic feelings.

They don’t seem present

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When hanging out or spending time together, they may seem distant. It may also feel like they’re not mentally present with you. They could be overthinking, which is one of the symptoms of mental health issues. So, if you feel like they’re uninterested in daily conversations or activities, then it’s time to make them understand that you’re with them no matter what.

Mental Health America says the following are typical signs that behaviors are starting to progress into mental health or are already full-blown.

In Adults, Young Adults, And Adolescents

Confused thinking

Prolonged depression (sadness or irritability)

Feelings of extreme highs and lows

Excessive fears, worries and anxieties

Social withdrawal

Dramatic changes in eating or sleeping habits

Strong feelings of anger

Strange thoughts (delusions)

Seeing or hearing things that aren’t there (hallucinations)

Growing inability to cope with daily problems and activities

Suicidal thoughts

Numerous unexplained physical ailments

Substance use

In Older Children And Pre-Adolescents:

Substance use

Inability to cope with problems and daily activities

Changes in sleeping and/or eating habits

Excessive complaints of physical ailments

Changes in ability to manage responsibilities – at home and/or at school

Defiance of authority, truancy, theft, and/or vandalism

Intense fear

Prolonged negative mood, often accompanied by poor appetite or thoughts of death

Frequent outbursts of anger

In Younger Children:

Changes in school performance

Poor grades despite strong efforts

Changes in sleeping and/or eating habits

Excessive worry or anxiety (i.e. refusing to go to bed or school)


Persistent nightmares

Persistent disobedience or aggression

Frequent temper tantrums


Mental illness is like any health issue. The affected person experiences episodes of turmoil and agony. As a partner, you have to decide how to help them cope with it. If you identify signs of mental illness in your partner, talk to them about it, show empathy, and discuss how you can help them resolve their issue. Remember, you can bring a significant change in them with love and care.

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