One of the most common behaviors that everyone can relate to is lying. People lie for different reasons. Sometimes, lies are told to protect the feelings of others. While it may be good, to tell the truth at such points, you may decide to hold back the truth to not hurt the person.
Some other times, people tell lies intending to deceive others. No matter the motive behind an individual lying, knowing how to detect a lie can be a tremendous asset to you. There are no universally accepted ways of detecting a lie. This is because the signs that have been associated with lying are human responses that differ from one individual to another. Seeing these signs, therefore, may not be a surety that someone is telling a lie.
Detecting a lie is difficult
Detecting a lie is not a clear-cut process. It can be challenging most times to say for sure that a person is telling a lie. However, one thing that you need to rely on when it comes to telling when someone is lying to you is your instinct.
Do you remember the old saying that “instincts never lie?” That statement is true in this context. Whenever it does not ring true, trust what your instinct is saying. What are the tell-tale signs that a person is telling a lie?
#1. Irregular speech
When a person’s speech pattern changes in a conversation, it may indicate that the person is telling a lie. A person’s tone of voice and even mannerisms may change. Some persons begin to stutter, while for some, the voice tone increases.
To identify a person’s normal tone of voice, you may start by asking straightforward questions like their names or house address. This will help you to detect a lie when you move on to more interrogative questions.
#2. Fidgeting excessively
Excessive movement of the body may be a sign that a person is not telling the truth. Excessive fidgeting has been associated with anxiety attacks and an attempt to calm anxiety. Think of when you saw a child trying to hide the truth from their parents and how they were fidgeting.
#3. Non-congruent gestures
Non-congruent gestures are those gestures that do not align with a person’s words. Body languages are a necessary aspect of a conversation. If at any point a person’s gestures don’t seem to be saying the same thing with their words, then they may be lying.
#4. Giving out little or no information
Lying may not at all times mean not telling the truth. Withholding of details may be a pointer that the person is telling a lie. Most times, people who lie come with a prepared story which they try to stick to at all cost.
A person may omit essential details from a story to protect themselves or others. This omission also counts as a lie. You could request for the person to give a reverse narration of the event or story. Truth tellers are more likely to stick to the same storyline and even provide more details than those telling lies.
Giving off an attitude of indifference and lack of interest could be a red flag for lying. While specific individuals may convey so many emotions when under pressure, others may avoid showing any emotions at all. You may tell that someone is lying by their lack of expression.
It doesn’t require much thinking to fill out the details of a story. This is especially true where the person has a track record of having a good memory. If people seem to think long before providing details of an event, it will most likely be an attempt to deceive.
Lie detection is not set in stone. This is because there are no general universally acceptable signs that someone is telling a lie. Some of the human behaviors that researchers have linked complying are also linked to anxiety and panic attacks.
While trying to gauge the truthfulness behind a person’s story, you may also look beyond just the signs by asking questions that would put pressure on the individual.