Me too means we all need to be feminists

by spicyray
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As I write, the disgraced singer R. Kelly was convicted of sexually assaulting young girls, under the age of 18, in a pattern of behavior that lasted for a decade. In 2019, Lifetime debuted a six-hour series entitled Surviving R. Kelly, which traced Kelly’s alleged transgressions with young girls in chronological order. The expose outlined a disturbing behavior pattern. And exposed him as a man whose mindset was troubling and predatory

But even as the world was coming to realize that there might be something dangerous in R. Kell’s behavior. The 54-year-old singer taunted and teased the public. He acted as though he was invincible, simultaneously taking to Facebook and other platforms.

Kelly, who goes by the nickname “the Pied Piper of R&B,” is alleged to have abused underage girls in a pattern that dates back to 1996 Metoo Means We All Need to Be Feminists. 


In 2006, the internet saw the creation of #MeToo. A hashtag that became a movement #MeToo was the spearhead of Tarana Burke’s campaign to raise awareness of the long-standing mistreatment against women. This treatment results in both physical and psychological damage.

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NEW YORK, NEW YORK – DECEMBER 04: (L-R) Lizzette Martinez, Andrea Kelly, Lisa Van Allen, Tarana Burke, Kitti Jones, Jerhonda Pace. Asante McGee and Gretchen Carlson attend Lifetime / NeueHouse Luminaries series ‘Surviving R. Kelly’ documentary screening and conversation at Neuehouse. NY on December 04, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Chance Yeh/Getty Images for A+E).

Unfair Treatment 

Unfair treatment of women and girls is a problem that spans both time and space. The brutal treatment of women in underdeveloped African countries has well documented. In her article Nigeria Ranks 9th Most Dangerous Country For Women, Ating Enwongo wrote: “Nigeria has ranked as the ninth most dangerous country for women. 

Nigeria also ranked 4th position in regards to sexual violence on women.  Including rape as a weapon of war, domestic rape, rape by a stranger. The lack of access to justice in rape cases, sexual harassment, and coercion into sex as a form of corruption Metoo Means We All Need to Be Feminists.”

The United States may rank higher for women’s safety. Still, men of all nationalities, ages, and economic tiers have treated feminism with disdain. Not all men feel this way, but there are enough to affect women’s experience in America. Critics of feminism insist that it encourages women to outspoken against perceived injustices. Without examining all of the facts, giving women a way to avoid. Accepting responsibility for their involvement in perpetuating gender stereotypes and unfair biases.

Feminist & Anti-Feminist Ideas

When feminist and anti-feminist ideas come together, the crude realities of male power are revealed. Many outspoken women put their lives at risk. Sometimes being blamed for others’ problems to the point that some say they deserve to die Metoo Means We All Need to Be Feminists.

Women’s rights activist Gulalai Ismail is a Pakistani woman who is best known for her crusade to reveal. The hypocrisy of forced marriages and gang rapes, the toll that these things take on the dignity and respect of women. Ismail’s courage in exposing the truth led to threats against her. In 2019, she went into hiding.  

New York Times writer Jeffrey Gettleman wrote in his 2019 article In Pakistan, a Feminist Hero Is Under Fire and on the 

“Ms. Ismail has become an enemy of the state, accused of inciting rebellion and now she is on the Run. For two months, practically no one has seen her. Pakistan’s security services, known as among this region’s most cunning and brutal, can’t find her.” Gettleman went on: “They have raided her house several times and deployed scores of officers, and, according to Ms. Ismail’s family, abducted and tortured family friends to extract information.”

Gulalai Ismail
Gulalai Ismail

Gulalai Ismail

In a follow-up story last week, Gettleman and his colleague Zia ur-Rehman followed up on the story. They shared the tragic news that Ismail’s father now faces legal consequences for helping his daughter flee Metoo Means We All Need to Be Feminists.

 “Now Pakistan has taken aim at her parents, accusing them of terrorism, and throwing her father. Who was recovering from Covid-19, into jail,” the authors wrote last week in After Rights Activist Escapes to U.S., Pakistan Jails Her Father.

“On Tuesday, a bail hearing ended with Mohammed Ismail. Ms. Ismail’s 65-year-old father, being led away in handcuffs. He faces charges of sedition and terrorism financing. Which human rights defenders say are bogus and thinly veiled revenge against the family for embarrassing the state security services.”


Burned Alive

In her book, Burned Alive: A Victim of the Law of Men, Souad writes that. She grew up in a Muslim family in a small village in the Palestinian West Bank, a village. Where men felt it was within their rights to oppress and uphold the tradition that women were worth less than a dead animal. One day, after milking cows and pulling heavy buckets all day, her arms became so exhausted that she dozed off while hanging a bucket. “As luck had it, my father arrived and shouted ‘Charmuta! Whore!'” she writes.

“He dragged me on the ground in the stable by the hair, and I caught a whipping with a belt. I begged him, and I cried in pain, but the more I said it hurt, the more he struck me and called me a whore… The cow and the sheep, as my father use to say, are worth more than the women.”



Malala Yousafzai was the youngest-ever Nobel Peace Prize winner, awarded the prize in 2013 when she was 17 years old. Like many other women, she attempted to speak her truth, exposing the realities that many men are scared to examine.  And like many other women, after Malala exposed the truth, she experienced retaliation.

“She is the definition of courage, speaking out and rallying for the right for girls to go to school. When Taliban occupation eradicated any hope of girls education in her hometown Swat Valley in Pakistan.” Wrote author Kiran Meeda in her article 5 Things Malala Has Taught Us About Feminism. “[Malala was] shot in the left side of her head by the extremist group. Malala literally took the bullet for girls’ education.”

Gloria Allred Feminist Movement
Gloria Allred shown in the red jacket

Gloria Allred

Gloria Allred is an attorney who had famously represented women. Who alleged that they had been taken advantage of by well-known men, including Bill Cosby, Donald Trump, Roman Polanski, Tiger Woods, and O.J Simpson. She told author Lucy Rock for her article America’s Top Feminist Lawyer, Gloria Allred: ‘Men Who Have Been Wrongdoers Are Living in Fear’:

“This has become more than ever the year of empowerment for women. The fear has been abandoned, and women don’t want to suffer in silence anymore. Many men have been wrongdoers and are living in fear now that they may wake up the next day and there is going to be a reckoning … that they may be next.”

Women have found themselves facing how to handle an incident in which a female peer raises questions. “Even well-intentioned people, including women, will commonly say, ‘I support gender equality, but I am not a feminist.’ As if merely associating with that name will somehow belittle whatever opinion they are trying to express,” said Kunal Bharati, a freelance writer who lives in India.

Question Of Blurred Lines

Then there’s the question of blurred lines and boundaries, especially when sex is involved.  Tavis Smiley’s case raises such questions.  The former syndicated talk radio host, TV personality, and author was embroiled in a bitter dispute with the PBS television network last year. The company fired him for violating the network’s morals clause after he engaged in multiple affairs with subordinates Metoo Means We All Need to Be Feminists. 


Although he admitted to consensual sex with several of his former female employees and guests on his show. Smiley filed a million-dollar lawsuit, prompting PBS to file a countersuit.  A judge sided with the network and ordered. Smiley to pay $2.6 million in damages for acts of verbal abuse, inappropriate touching, and unwanted sexual comments. Thankfully, in Smiley’s case, his victims received some solace; had there not been supporting evidence, it would have been a case of “he said, she said.”

Faced Brutalization

Many women have faced brutalization for decades and decades. Recent stories of Gulalai Ismail and Malala Yousafzai shed light on the sad reality that although. The #MeToo movement is gaining steam, the progress is slow. And we always face the possibility that the movement will be seen as only a phase in the media, used when another colorful word doesn’t suffice.

Bharati, who works extensively for advertising agencies, said. “The point to all of this is a very simple fact – you can’t fix a problem until you admit you have one,” he said.

“Denial and ignorance are the biggest roadblocks in the path to solving anything because you are not even trying to solve it. You can ignore a problem, but that does not mean that you have solved it; it just means that. You have allowed the problem to become much more set and much more difficult to solve. So, take your own ego out of the equation, be accepting of your own flaws, and get on that right side of the history.

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