My Super Hero

 

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. charm is deceptive, beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised”

 Holy Bible: New International Version

M people wonder about Nigeria, the diversity of its people, policies, traditions, and broken homes– especially those that should consider it home. In the midst of all of the happenings here, no one ever stops to think about how the nation’s way of doing things could affect the perspective of a young Nigerian child. While there are many trends in Nigeria. I have noticed a widespread trend in African culture: the alarming rate of broken homes, mostly among very young couples. Things tend to be of no consequence or often disappear when it becomes the reoccurring topic of a nation.

Lack of respect for the power of women

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Women are referred to as the “weaker vessel” but I have come to the realization that women are way stronger than men due to the fact that an average woman has a whole lot more capacity to handle sensitive and delicate situations in a more effective manner than an average manner than an average man.

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Women carry considerable responsibility for raising children because the fathers have little or nothing to contribute to their own kids’ lives and this creates to broken homes. Mothers build their children to be equipped for the future in character and other ways, but how much do men contribute? They only care about feeding the children and assuming the role of the “head of the house.”

 Power of the Africa Mother

My name is Nelly Adams (not her real name to protect her identity), and I’m a nineteen-year-old Nigerian. I want to talk about my mother and her struggles as a single Nigerian parent with three kids.  Writing this story, I got to ask my mum many questions, to which I’ll share the answers with you. I hope that by hearing her story, you’ll see for yourself how solid womenfolk are.

My mum, being born into the type of family she was, where she watched her older sisters, who didn’t have the privilege of being sent to school, fend for themselves at a very young age because;

“Wisdom is justified by all her children.
Luke 7:35”

Holy Bible: New International Version

They were born into a family that preferred males over females, had always wanted a better life for herself, especially for her children, and this drive led her toward leaving her hometown at twenty to Lagos state in Nigeria. She met my dad in November of that same year. She came to Lagos, and I guess they fell in love.

The husband’s inability to look beyond himself

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My mum’s family never approved of my dad, especially her elder brother for so many reasons, only one of which I know. My dad cared a lot about how he looked, and he tried all means to keep up with his lifestyle, though he wasn’t loaded financially for that kind of lifestyle, and did it to the detriment of his kids’ future.

“Love never fails. 
 

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A Daughter’s pain

As a little girl, I remember seeing my mum crying a lot and it would break my heart but I didn’t know how to comfort her and so I would sit close to her, or sometimes I would cry too though I didn’t know why.

It didn’t take me a long time to realize and to accept the fact that my siblings and I would never come first to my dad but I knew that my sister had a difficult time dealing with it even if she’ll never admit it. I remember when the fighting started or should I say when I noticed it, it was around the time my mum started going to the university and my dad got a little jealous.

As a little girl, I remember seeing my mum crying a lot, and it would break my heart because our home was broken. I didn’t know how to comfort her so that I would sit close to her, or sometimes I would cry too, though I didn’t know why. It didn’t take me a long time to realize and accept that my siblings and I would never come first to my dad, but I knew my sister had difficulty dealing with it, even if she’d never admitted it.

“This is my command- be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”

Holy Bible: New International Version

I remember when the fighting started, or should I say when I noticed it, it was around when my mum started going to university, and my dad got a little jealous. He would refuse to pay for anything around the house and say he was only capable of giving us money for snacks for school and other things that suited him at any time, though he didn’t pull through on that and always put pressure on mum to ask her “rich” brother for help.

He would sometimes come up with these crazy ideas that he would only pay for my tuition, but I went to a public school and didn’t need to pay tuition. After my mum left him, he didn’t call for over a year, and when he finally did, it was only to make my mum the bad guy.

Daughter’s self-love because of her mother’s influence

African mothers have a lot on their plates but they are super heroes
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I had to ask my mum one time why she married him because I knew that she deserved so much better than him. She deserves someone who would put her first and not envy her, someone who would encourage her to be her best self and to reach her full potential.

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. charm is deceptive, beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised”
 

Holy Bible: New International Version

I sometimes cry when I think of how much my mum has done to make our lives better than the one she had, she deprived herself of a lot of things to provide for us but there were times that the pressure would get to her and we, her kids would have to our own little sacrifice to make things easier for her.

I couldn’t ask for a better mother, because she’s the best, and she’s my superhero. I try not to think about my dad, but sometimes I can’t help it, and I hate myself for it. But then I remember all the horrible things he has said to me, like “I don’t need you in my life I can take care of myself at old age.” He would add, “I don’t have to give you money, you have your mother for that,” etc.

Well, my siblings and I turned out well, and we’ve learned to love each other above all. These situations happen in many families in the world, and I know that many people have had it worse than we did, but we can pull through and be better than our parents.

Though a broken home might not be seen as a political topic, it is sometimes the foundations and backstories of many leaders today, and it can affect the way they lead our countries.

You might wonder why some people are sexist or think that women don’t have anything to offer. It might be that they had fathers who abused their mothers or never treated their sisters right. We all have a duty to ourselves and the world to frame and protect the minds of our children, as they are the only chance at a better and greater future.

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